Monday, January 3, 2011

Why she suffer, why she cry !


I don't have pile of papers and no mountain of work in front of me so I am all set to free. Random thoughts were hitting my mind and so I finally decided to pen them down. In fact, yes I know why such thoughts were revolving in my mind, I heard talk by Nouman Ali and the topic was The Healthy Marriage. A totally realistic talk and words, thumbs up for him. Majority of the women in our society are having same problems about their MAN. And most of the important which I have heard from married women are;

"Why He Always Leave Stuff Lying Around And Mess Up Things"

This is the question in girls mind all the time and later comparisons are being made like; If I can be organized then why can't he ? Gosh, girls grow up. What I think is HE don't want to irritate you in any case out, neither he is your enemy that what ever you will say he would do opposite to that. Let me narrate you a talk I had with my friend's hubby, both of them were having some conflicts.

Ashi : Ask him why he don't hang out his coat after coming back from office?
Ali : If my coat is lying on the couch I will feel much more at home.

Ashi : Why he place his wallet at different places every other day?
Ali : Simply, I fall in love with ashi when I say "Ashiiii mera wallet nahi mil raha" and ashi came up having wallet in hand and some anger in eyes saying "khud hi rakhtey hain phir aashii aasshi kartey hain "

Now just see are these major issues, are these things to worry about and loose patience ? No they are absolutely not. Women should try to understand that their MAN loves them and do such acts just because they love them more and more. If you are making it an issue then eventually you are doing bad to yourself.



Issues can be driven out if you want. But if you want to drive your man and his acts out then I would suggest to quit it. You will regret it later, there is no one like him you can be with.

Think over it,
Ikra


Posted by Anonymous at 7:33 AM

18 comments:

  1. muzzammilJanuary 3, 2011 at 8:36 AM

    hell of a romantic lady :P

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  2. Aisha HassanJanuary 3, 2011 at 8:38 AM

    yaar in whatever case, its almost impossible to read a man's mind.. u dont know if it's his love or he's trying to irritate you.. idk if im getting your point well but even if u r doing compromises, even then guys act difficult sometimes..

    I'll come back on this post after getting married :$$ lets see if i think same lol :P

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  3. AnonymousJanuary 3, 2011 at 8:39 AM

    Oh muz so i am :) Thanks for dropping by.

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  4. AnonymousJanuary 3, 2011 at 8:41 AM

    @AW.. If he loves you which obviously he do, he will never irritate you. Don't compromise on things that make you get down. I will wait for the day when you will comment again on post :) Thanks for dropping by, xx

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  5. Asad AliJanuary 3, 2011 at 9:28 AM

    Marriage is what binds ya right.. bu what wud marriage be if there were no occasional "roothna and manana" .. ur lucky that he finds love even in ur anger .... dont be disappointed if things are a lil messy... but when u once reach out into his arms, u'd find that u have got everythin

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  6. AnonymousJanuary 3, 2011 at 11:15 AM

    Nice comment, Thanks for dropping by Asad :)

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  7. Muhammad Wasif JavedJanuary 3, 2011 at 12:58 PM

    2 days back met my cousin in Abu-Dhabi and were discussing the similar with her and her hubby. There is almost no understanding before or at in earlier stage of marriages. It takes time and meanwhile both needs to practice tolerance and patience in relationship by being kind to each other; understanding the fact of being unique in their own behaviour. Once you evolve the love bond then there is an unintentional care factor comes which stops each one of them not to do things other mate dislikes :-)
    Sometime 1 does such things not to irritate his/her soul-mate but to be in naughty mood and have some fun ;-)
    The issues you mention above counts in earlier stage of marriage which is small enough but can put house on fire if arguments starts and better both but at-least 1 didn’t practice tolerance.

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  8. AnonymousJanuary 3, 2011 at 1:11 PM

    Thanks for dropping by wasif. And yeah the things after BUT are always crucial and we should pay head to them :)

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  9. Muhammad Wasif JavedJanuary 3, 2011 at 1:15 PM

    Yup, we should but lack of patience starts the arguments and if other one respond then fight which can lead things to an end so things which 1 dislikes should be conveyed in a way that other 1 understands and [at-least try] make sure next time not happen :-)

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  10. AnonymousJanuary 3, 2011 at 1:23 PM

    @Wasif Agreed :)

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  11. Asad AliJanuary 3, 2011 at 9:30 PM

    Your welcome..

    Regards from a 21 yr old bachelor..

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  12. aemiJanuary 4, 2011 at 6:10 AM

    yar iqra em not that optimistic as u r... MEN r good as frnds but not as husbands. and if a girl finds a good huby , i would say shez da chosen one.

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  13. AnonymousJanuary 4, 2011 at 6:13 AM

    Oh aemi, MEN are good as friends but not as husbands! I totally disagree. Take and example of your dad, ur bro's. They are not good husbands ? I wish and pray u would be the chosen one :)

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  14. ererJanuary 4, 2011 at 6:19 AM

    hmm nice thoughts... but ill discuss my thoughts on it with you off the record :P

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  15. aemiJanuary 4, 2011 at 6:34 AM

    thanks yara :)

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  16. AnonymousJanuary 4, 2011 at 7:40 AM

    @WarmSunshine Will have the discussion over some lunch soon :)

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  17. MeetyJanuary 11, 2011 at 11:38 AM

    Love the conversation bit and I totally agree with you... we need to accept our man for what he is and not for what he isn't...

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  18. AnonymousJanuary 11, 2011 at 11:40 AM

    @Meety Oh yes, we should accept OUR mates for what they are. Thanks for dropping by :)

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